A few days before V'Day, I casually asked a friend of mine if he had a crush on anyone.
"Nothing", he replied disinterested. "Yaar I am over with such things"
I had to agree. At 25 years of age, one does move over such things, though I wish we did not have to. But with time, our perspectives and priorities change. When you are a 13 year old, you have a very simplistic model in your mind, about how love and marriages happen- people grow up, they meet someone special, they fall in love, and ultimately they get married. Then at 14 you have a crush on a cute classmate & believe that you are in love. Gradually the infatuation wears off and you start liking someone else who is oblivious to your existence. Meanwhile, a pathetic creature you really dislike starts liking you and follows you like a devoted puppy. On one hand you are happy about the fact that you have got an admirer but on the other one, this is someone you simply hate !! By the time you are convinced that you are fated only for one-sided loves, the unexpected happens- A person you secretly like gives signals that they too like you!! After a few days of shyly exchanging glances, you guys start chatting and within a few days you decide that you have met "The One". Just as you are mentally planning your wedding, things fall apart. You get dumped. Your heart breaks and you feel like dying. "Never again", you tell yourself tearfully, resolving never to fall in love again. A few months pass, your heart heals and YES!! You are in love again!! The same sequence follows- your heart starts fluttering the moment you spot your special one, your face turns red the first time they talk to you, you are on cloud nine when on your date... Within days you are convinced that you have found your soul mate!! But a few weeks into the relationship and you realize you are stuck up with someone totally incompatible. You leave the relationship- and break a heart. At this stage you learn a very painful truth - breaking a heart sometimes hurts as much as, if not more, than getting yours broken. Copious tears flow but you move on with time. You learn not to fall in love on a whim. You become wiser, more mature and finally get over with childish emotions like crushes & infatuations.
I certainly have risen above this concept. Now a days whenever I see youngsters blushing & gushing over a new crush, I know they are secretly planning a future together. I smile at their innocence and feel a twinge of sadness at the same time because I have grown up.
I would juz say 1 thing: "An incredible thought". You know what, it seems like you are are one of those few ppl who are very honest and clear in their writing. This is so true that "Love happens once" is a paradox in itself and if this might have been the case, life would have been impossible for those who lost their partners. God has given us the power of "to love again". we must thank god that he has given us the best medicine in this world- "TIME". Time heals everything and we again start up fresh with much more maturity and that's what life is all about. learning things and creating new horizons :)
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